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Tuesday, Jul. 15, 2003 - 8:17 p.m. A WOMAN'S PERSPECTIVE The week continues and work is slowly becoming more stressful as the year-end crunch approaches. Our team of workers has undergone much change over the past eight months, leaving only three of us with any experience on the project, one being me. They are handing me stuff to do that in the past they would only give to workers with much more experience. The next four months may be the most difficult of my career thus far. My aunt who lives in California had seven children, four of which turned out to have bipolar disorder. She is a very learned woman and is wonderful to talk to. I plan to consult her more often as I adapt to challenges in my social life, particularly in areas dealing with bipolar disorder. We chatted on AOL last night about my decision to change therapists. Her advice was much more conservative, saying that I should hear my therapist out before I leave him. I have agreed with her and I have set up another appointment with him, first to discuss July 4th, and second to bring closure to our therapy. In the meanwhile I have scheduled an appointment with a female therapist. Actually, I have been entertaining this thought of changing therapists for quite a while. I may have even discussed it in previous entries. But after my first date, I am certain a change is necessary. I have been around men all my life. I have three brothers. I was in the Boy Scouts. I went to an all-male high school. It is about time I learn something about women from a real woman. Especially after my experience with the girl in NY. I need to know how women think in those situations so that I know how to act. How women think may seem common-sensical, after all, they are people like everyone else right? Yes this is true. However, based on what I have learned, the subtleties in the dance between a man and a woman are quite complicated. The only way I will be able to polish my side of the dance is to learn her moves. Men cannot dance like women. That is why I am changing to a female therapist. I finished the night with a long chat on the phone with one of my brothers. He gave me a very valuable piece of advice. Be honest about my virginity. Do not hide it. Use it to my advantage. Some women may find it odd that a 26-year-old is a virgin at first, especially an attractive and charming guy, but some will be overwhelmed when they come to understand that I want a relationship with them that goes far deeper than sex. At least I hope that is what will happen. Either way, I plan to be honest, at least if the issue comes up. That brings up an important issue. Most modern relationships are highly sexually involved. Any woman I meet out there will expect sex to be an integral part of the relationship. That is why I am turning to a new target. I was not too thrilled about singles groups at first. I always thought it was the refuge of the desperate. Maybe it is. So what? I have nobody. How can it hurt for me to show up at a singles function, after all, are not they all in the same boat. I am targetting a religious singles group in particular. Most Christian religions prohibit sex before marraige, so maybe I will luck out and find a girl who is not looking for sex right away. (You will never hear a guy say that!) I spoke to the group coordinator at this church, which is in central Baton Rouge, a bit far from where I live, and he said that a predominance of the members in the group are mid-20's to early 30's. Maybe I hit a jackpot. Or maybe not. Who knows. All I can do is keep trying. And tomorrow is another day.
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